First Time..

I am sure everyone has heard of the phrase "There is always a first time for everything"...and it goes without saying that it's true. Going to school for the first time, cooking for the first time, going out for dates for the first time, swimming for the first time and etc...etc...There is never an end to that list.

It has been a year since I came to Perth for my further studies. I live in a hostel here and my family is far far away from me. When I used to live with my family, my parents used to do most of the things for me. I never really had to clean the house or cook or whatsoever...I used to live a very sheltered life...(jz to make things clear, I was NOT pampered)...As I am sure you can tell, living alone means doing things all by yourself...which means no more depending on my parents. So here I was, one year ago, a sheltered girl, who doesn't know much about anything, leaving her home for the very first time. As I started my life here, I had to do many things for the first time. I have compiled a list and I would love to share it..So here it goes *ahem ahem*:

THINGS DONE FOR THE FIRST TIME

1. got my very own bedroom and got to sleep on my very own bed!!!at home I have to share my room with my sister and she has really bad sleeping habits...so from now onwards I don't need to share my wardrobe or end up having a new bruise every single morning...
2. learnt how to keep my room neat and tidy...usually my mum used to make sure that our room is clean...now i have to do it all by myself
3. got to decorate my own room!that is the best part cos I love to decorate...
4. got to do my very own shopping..I usually follow my mum around when it comes to shopping and ask for her opinion about the clothes I wanted to buy...now I trust my own taste and buy my clothes...
5. got to do my laundry....at home my mum usually does the laundry...I finally figured how to use the washing machine...
6. got to iron my clothes...again my mum used to iron my clothes...though not as good as my mum but I got the basics right..
7. deposited money in the bank...the financial aspect is usually my dad's department...after coming here I do it myself...
8. withdrew money from the ATM...i never had to withdraw any cash back home as my dad used to be there to give me money if I ever needed...
9. grocery shopping...I hate doing that back home...used to avoid it...but now I don't have a choice...
10. study all by my own...no more parents nagging at me to go and do my work...I am still as lazy as ever and my self-discipline has not improved at all..
11. basically normal administration stuff....which at home my dad usually handles it...
12. travel all alone by myself...i was never allowed to travel alone...now i get to do it..
13. got to make some important decisions...usually i would discuss with my parents...now they are not around to make those decisions for me..
14. cooking all by myself...well with my friends actually...as you can see from one of my previous posts...mum wasn't there to guide us on tat one and it turned out great!
15. living alone basically...

That's about all I can remember so far...it's pretty long if you ask me...for a girl who was never out of her parents' sight.

I was nervous, excited and scared at the same time. It has been memorable though...the past one year. It wasn't easy but it wasn't that difficult either. Sure I had my good days and bad...sure I had shed tears of joy and sadness...sure I made some good and bad decisions...but most important thing of all...I have learnt from all these. I feel that I have become more independent, more grown-up and know so much more...

Well, with all the knowledge that I have, I realised I have spent enough time on this...time for me to get back to my studying...

Right or Wrong?

• "What is your decision?"
• "What are the choices?"
• "Should I or should I not?"

Do they sound familiar?I am sure they do...Every other minute or second, we always ask ourselves these questions-consciously and unconsciously. Most of the time we make insignificant decisions. However, sometimes we have to make extremely important decisons. These decisions have the power to change one's life or even one's perspective. These decisions have the power to alienate one from the rest of the world or bring one closer to others.

Since they have such huge impact, how does one go about making a decision that would guarantee a positive outcome?How does one make a decision that would satisfy everyone? It's simple: no one knows for sure...there are no theories to explain or to teach us how to make good decisions...

Because of this many times we are afraid to make these important decisions....or tend to be really uncertain and doubtful...(that's me!) Since we have to make some kind of decision other people's opinions start to matter in this case. Sometimes we tend to follow them(that's me!) or if contradictary opinions are given, we just get even more confused(that's me again!)

So what is the solution?I guess the solution is just to believe in yourself and do what you think is right. You don't have to satisfy everyone...that is just impossible. You just have to live life in your own terms...Whatever the outcome shall be...at least you know that you have done the best that you could. As someone once said:

"Decisions are the endless uncertainties of life that we’ll not know if they are right until the very end, so do the best you can and hope its right."

Decisions shape our destiny...they are a consequence of each and every step we take. We have come this far because of the decisions that we have made. So think carefully before deciding and stick to them once they are made...who knows...the decisions that seem so unfavourable now...may be favourable in the future...

On that note, I have finally made a decision on an issue that has been bugging me for the past few days...and as of right now...I have finally decided to stop writing as it is getting too long. And a big thank you to those that have decided to read this post...